Saturday Dinner at Emma's: Message Pack 1. HEADS UP MESSAGE Short version: Hi Emma! Looking forward to Saturday. Just a heads up that I'm allergic to shellfish, including shrimp, crab, and lobster, and even a small amount makes me sick. That includes food cooked in the same pan as shellfish. I'd love to bring dessert! Fuller version: Hi Emma! I'm so excited for your dinner party on the 21st. Before then, I wanted to let you know that I'm allergic to shellfish, including shrimp, crab, and lobster. Even a small amount makes me sick, so food cooked in the same pan as shellfish is a problem for me too. I'm happy to eat the other dishes that are fine for me, and I'd love to bring a dessert. Can't wait to see you! 2. IF THEY ASK WHY Sharing the reason: It's an allergy. I'm completely fine talking about it, so ask me anything! Keeping it brief: It's just an allergy. Thanks so much for asking! 3. CHECKING THE MENU Hi Emma! Now that the menu is set, I wanted to check on {dish name}. Could you let me know whether it involves shellfish, or whether it's cooked in the same pan as shellfish? I'm happy to eat the other dishes that are fine for me, and I'm still glad to bring {dessert I'm bringing}. Thank you! 4. AT THE TABLE - Thanks again for having me, Emma. Could you remind me which dishes have shellfish or were cooked in the same pan as shellfish? - I'm allergic to shellfish, so I'll skip anything that involves it. - Is this {dish name} one that's fine for me, given my shellfish allergy? - I brought {dessert I brought}, so please help yourselves! 5. IF THEY APOLOGIZE OR WORRY - Please don't apologize, Emma. I really appreciate you thinking of it. - Thank you for caring about this. I'm just glad to be here with you. - I'm happy to eat the other dishes that are fine for me, and I'm looking forward to the evening. 6. THANK YOU MESSAGE Hi Emma! Thank you so much for hosting on Saturday. I really enjoyed {something I enjoyed}, and it was wonderful to spend the evening with you and everyone. Thanks for having me, and for being such a good friend since university. Let's do it again soon!