[YouTube transcript/script] = "Transcript: (00:00) jeffrey thinks all women are ( __ ) i hate them all they're all ( __ ) they're all stupid why won't they be my ( __ ) jeffrey spends 40 days and 40 nights trying to learn how to approach women but he does it all in the wrong way he sees them as the enemy he doesn't even see them as a human being and so what you think happens when jeffrey goes out and tries to approach women nothing he never even takes action he never even leaves his crusty computer chair but he just continuously watches videos on how (00:24) to approach women the right way that's not you is it i first learned about cold approaching women a few years ago and i was hooked straight away me and my friend levi would go to clubs and we'd be speaking to girls and we'd just be like and we actually did pretty well very often in the middle of the club everyone's drinking we'd end up kissing loads of girls and every now and then every couple of nights would bring a girl back to sleep with but that was at night time what about in the daytime (00:45) what about day game and you know i'm pretty blessed to say that for me personally day game has always pretty much been relatively successful it's just that i've always had the wrong mindset so i was never able to do it properly i would watch too many videos and start overthinking i'd see the girl that i wanted to talk to and i would just not really do it when i would build up the courage to go speak to that girl oftentimes it would go really well i remember that i got some of the best experiences of my life in terms of (01:08) getting girls with cold approaching and just going up to a girl and just asking her a random question like hey excuse me do you know what time this gym closes and she'll say something like uh i think it's like 10 p.m i'm still there looking at her i go to this gym every single day i know that the gym is 24 hours and i'm like oh like yeah thank you so what's your name my name's samson you dumbass it's not 10 pm stupid ( __ ) adonis isn't afraid to go speak to a woman why would he he's 7 foot 3 376 (01:33) pounds what is this puny human going to do to him adonis hasn't felt approach anxiety since he was a teenager and although things were pretty difficult when he would go up and try and speak to girls when he was younger he overcame the trials and tribulations and learnt the skills and the right mindset and now adonis feels comfortable around new women the best mindset that you can have when you're going out to approach women is simply success equals approaching instantly focus entirely on that the reason why approaching seems so hard the (02:00) reason why sometimes when you get the thought okay i should speak to her and you start overthinking and you don't want to do it is because we play out the conversation in our mind and we're trying to think okay what should i say how do i get her into bed with the highest percentage conversion rate of the thing that i can say but there's people looking and we overthink things too much we simply need to build up the habit of literally just going up to a girl as fast as possible and saying anything with the mindset and the (02:22) humility to understand that the first tens if not hundreds of times that we go up to speak to girls it's gonna be pretty trash you can't expect to walk into the gym and have the perfect gym workout on your first ever session can you but that's what a lot of people do that's what a lot of people who have waited for the new year's resolutions and everything they think of the ultimate hardcore workout and that's exactly why they don't go to the gym consistently because they've set the bar (02:44) of success too damn high when you go out to approach girls or when you've had the thought to do it you've set the bar of success too high for you the bar of successes oh like the the number closed and she's gonna fall in love with me maybe we can have a sex straight away and maybe we'll go on a date straight away and i've got to be able to be really good at no you can't expect any of those other things like the more advanced things just yet that's like hitting a pr that's like hitting three (03:05) plate bench press it takes time to practice to get to those results right now we need you to just show up and just go speak and say anything to a girl just like for the beginner we need this beginner to literally just show up to the gym forget the best workout forget like you know overthinking about so many uh strength training or hypertrophic traits before rapper two second he said forget about everything else bro just come to the gym come to the gym for 20 minutes you'll make progress go outside speak to a girl stutter mess up your (03:29) words slow your words save some random ( __ ) doesn't matter specifically training that habit of walking up and just saying something is the most important part that's like the bottleneck that you need to be focused on right now and imagine that imagine training the habit that would allow you to literally just go up smoothly instantly and go speak to a girl hey yo you're disturbing her she doesn't want to speak to straight shut up bro she doesn't want to speak the strange shut up it's always guys who say this (03:54) like i don't want to disturb a girl's work bro trust me when i say and anyone who's like done a fair amount of approaching can back me up in the comments the overwhelming pretty much all the time when you go up and you speak in like a nice friendly way she is pleasant she actually speaks to you with a massive smile on your face there's barely ever any times of the stereotypical time of like you'll go up to speak to a girl she'll be scared and she'll be like getting ready to fight (04:14) you some it doesn't happen in real life bro almost every time i go to speak to a girl afterwards i just think like why was i overthinking so much you might overthink so what are these people gonna say okay what's the best sentence to use i'd go up say something silly like say anything and it ends we end up having a pleasant conversation and even if i don't get her number even if i don't end up dating her or sleeping with her it's always quite a pleasant interaction and i always think to myself why did my (04:36) brain overthink beforehand it's because i have set the intention that the success in this interaction is like me getting the number close success simply equals you going up and speaking to us saying anything you need to do that like a hundred times first before you can actually get into the groove and get used to this then you can start having the better intellectual attractive conversations but first we need you to at least enter those conversations i could make this video longer and i could tell you that the best uh sentence is to (05:00) say the eye contact body language and all of that stuff bro but get everything because that's what's making you overthink and that's what's stopping you from actually going out there and at least starting the initial process i love my mindset more than everyone else's i've seen on youtube get into a hundred conversations even if the conversation is trashed you've made progress you've shown up to the gym even if the workout is trash if you've shown up as a beginner you're making progress (05:23) do not be like that fat 43 year old susan who's waiting for the new years because she had one workout of like the body power class where they do like a bunch of ( __ ) cardio and like 50 reps and she never comes to the gym again because it's too hard because success equals going to that class in her mind for you success equals having the best conversation and too often when i speak about approaching and going up to speak to girls a lot of guys will come to comment about hamsa tell us what to say tell me what to say hamza if that's what (05:46) your mindset is like right now i see you scrolling down looking for those comments and also ready to like type one if no one else don't want if that is your mindset i have full confidence that you're not gonna do this because you're overthinking you're like the guy who writes a ( __ ) script before he calls like his local takeaway before you call someone you've already prepared the script you don't need to know what to say because even if you prepare the script even if you know what to say or (06:05) you don't know what to say the first few conversations are gonna be awkward they're gonna be trash but the guy who's prepared the script will overthink so much more that he'll miss the opportunity of the first few interactions whereas the guy who has like the lean startup like you know hit the ground running type of mindset he'll go up and breeze through that progress forget about everything else literally just focus on approaching as fast as possible do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it"